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I've not had a whiney emo thread in a while so here goes..

There is a girl I knew from school who knows one of my mates girlfriends. At his birthday during the summer I got talking to her and we flirted a bit and had a good time. She is really really pretty and I got on well with her. Saw her again about a month later and she was friendly again. I pulled her later that night. Afterwards she seemed a little less flirty (maybe it was just my imagination). I've not seen her since (couple of months ago) and Bebo'd her a few times. She seemed friendly on there and I said we should meet up in town sometime...she never replied. I'm not sure if this is just a girl thing or me being paranoid or neither. I tried not to take things too seriously anyway.

So lately I've had my eye on a few girls but nothing serious, but ideally I'd always have her if she asked me. I didn't want to Bebo her again in case I ruined any chance (do I have one anyway? ). Last night in the car I was with my sister and we were on the subject of me being a little negative towards myself. She told me a girl had been speaking to her about me and it was her (my sister actually knows her from a school trip couple of years ago). She saw my sis on Halloween and told her that she needed to speak to her about me. Now is this a good or bad thing. Either way I've been totally obsessed thinking about it. I've not got her number. I'm tempted to message her on Bebo again just casually but scared in case it looks too dodgy after her speaking to my sister. Why would she want to speak to my sister about me, could it be good or bad. Why would she speak to my sister to say if she liked me. But then again what if she was just really really shy. I don't wanna get my hopes up or down, I just don't know how to play things

Ahh women!

Hmmm, tricky one! So did she actually speak to your sister about you then? Would your sister tell you what was said?

This girl may just be unsure about whether you actually like her or not...she could just be being cautious so she doesn't make a plonker of herself by making any move and getting knocked back.
Like you guys, us girlies don't enjoy knockbacks and it can be hard to make the first move!

Unless you have something to worry about or hide (embarassing past etc) then I can't see why it would be a bad thing that she might talk to your sister about you.

The way I see it, you can go down one of three routes....

Sit and wait to see what happens and what the conversation with your sister actually involves...maybe wait for another 'friend in common' night-out pops up.

Send her another message on bebo 'Casual' to see if it gets any sort of ball rolling. Although this could take time if casual messages are just going back and forth and it may not give her any real confidence that you really do like her.

Contact her and just put it straight....For example "I am sorry if this seems a little forward, but I'd love to take you out for a drink and get to know you a little better. How does next weekend suit you?"

The 3rd option would get the quickest answer with less faffing about, however you may have to be prepared to get the 'dreaded knockback' or no response....but at least you'd know either way.

Whichever choice you make, you're gonna get the same answer at the end so if it was me, i'd go for the short, sharp resolve.

Girls like a guy with confidence but not arrogance. Get the balance right and you'll do well. Getting that 1st proper date isn't easy, and it doesn't get any easier as time goes on but it's all kinda what the fun is all about and keeps it interesting!

Hope it goes ok for you anyway....let us know how you get on!

Yours faithfully, Auntie Charlie!

Cheers for that, feel a bit better now! I've definately done nothing bad or got anything to hide regarding her anyway. She just saw my sister for a second and will be meaning she will talk to her properly when she next sees her, but then that could be a while

charlievwp wrote: Contact her and just put it straight....For example "I am sorry if this seems a little forward, but I'd love to take you out for a drink and get to know you a little better. How does next weekend suit you?"

Do It !!!!!!!!!!

Thats probably the easiest way to find out mate, rests your mind afterwards.

* If she says yes then you'll be happy and get to know each other.
* If she says no then you can move on, stop thinking about her and get to know other girls if you take a fancy.

Totally agree with the above - if you just do it, then youve got nothing to lose, but perhaps something to gain!

Awww mousie! Didnt kno you were in love mate!!!

good on ya pal.....i defo say go for option 3 but in a slightly different manner....confidence in a guy is a real plus point to most women, mention that maybe you 2 could start talking a bit more and that yous could go to the cinema or something, start it off strictly as mates though!! Have a joke and a laugh for the first couple of dates, let each other suss each other and get comfortable. There will be tell tale signs whether it has potential or not, cos lets face it, if you guys dont hit it off as mates then you wont hit it off as anything more.

So take it a step further...grab that bottle, but take it relatively slow as not to scare her.

Me and you need a little heart to heart when i get back

Fancy a chat over some VR noteage??

I think what puts me off is that the last message I sent about a month ago was suggesting to meet up in town to which she never replied. I just admitted to my sister last night that I like her lol. Hopefully she wouldn't say anything bad about me I'll give it a week I think then message her

Phil I'll take you up on that offer!

Grrr all that for nothing. My sister last night found out from her best mate that she is seeing someone. Totally gutted, what's so special about this guy? I totally give up on girls now

Mouse_GTI wrote:I totally give up on girls now

Don't give up, but don't go searching either. You are most likely to meet somone when you least expect it.

Maybe lady luck will shine and you'll have two chasing after you. You never know, they may even be 'friends' and like each other as well, from experience there is nothing better I tell thee !

Turn GAAAAYY

That's never gonna be an option

That's a bummer, feel for you I really do.

I'm young free and single, and feeling good for it too! Enjoy it while it lasts!

I know it's cliched but they will find you, I've given up on men!

26 months of being single, I am starting to get bored even though I've pulled more girls this year than any other

I've been single for 2 weeks... absolutely hate it, as i just finished with my ex which lasted 2 years just stay the hell away from any emotional attachment thats what i say!!!