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Not sure if anyone's interested but I need to vent this out somewhere, and my weblog isn't the most appropriate place right now - can't post too much "sensitive" information there.

Well, anyway. This weekend was supposed to be great - monday is a national holiday here (Nov 15th, "Republic Day") - but so far it's been cr*p and I'm in a very bad mood right now.

The reasons:

1. Damaged the car on Friday (read post about Corsa parts for details). It was a small thing, but it was my fault and it just breaks my heart to see the Polo with dents that *I* caused. So I'm mostly walking.

2. I was supposed to go to the countryside and spend the whole weekend enjoying the great spring weather by a pool, drinking beer and surrounded by friends, but work just kept coming up - right now I'm taking a break from the sh*tload of boring "institutional" text I have to write for a couple of websites. Damn virtual brochures. I hate this kind of job but I need the money.

3. I was supposed to enjoy 11 days of complete peace, ending this monday, because my parents are away visiting my grandmother in Recife. That would be great for concentrating on work and other things, but my brother decided to seize the opportunity to have his girfriend *MOVE* to our apartment in mum's absence, and we haven't even been "officially" introduced. In fact, nobody in the family knows the character.

But now she's here everyday, the whole time (apart from the times when I suppose she's in college, where my brother drops her and from whence he picks her up every day, sometimes using the Polo to my great irritation), eating all the food that was left here for us (and that would save me from having to eat out and spend money I don't have with the recent courrier theft and the Polo incident) and they're using my parents' bedroom as their own, which kind of pisses me off for some reason I can't explain.
She also wears a strong, VERY irritating perfume which will give my bro a hard time to take off my parents' bed before they arrive.

I can't watch a movie in the living room because they're always there with a load of DVDs - I mean, when they're not locked in my parents' room - and they seem bothered by presence. It's as if I'm an unwanted visitor or something.

4. My girlfriend is away at her parents' house which is about 220Km from here. We talk on the phone the whole time but yesterday she came up with the "I'm bored with the relationship" talk, AGAIN! Her basic complaint is that things are not like they used to be in the beginning of the relationship - which is an obvious fact of life, especially given that we both now have to work (a lot) and so I can't make the little surprises and the escapades we used to have when our life was all about going to the university and pretending we studied hard. It doesn't help that more than one guy at her work have made advances towards her in recent months - despite the fact that they know she's comitted and that they have actually met me on more than one occasion.

I'm a bit aprehensive about where this is all heading.

5. Did I mention I had an incident with the Polo?

6. All my best friends are in the countryside (where I was supposed to be) and so I can't call them and talk about these things (no cellular coverage where they are).

Well, this is a rant post but I had to vent all this somewhere...Sorry.

Oh well, better get back to work.

Mate, chin up...I know things may seem to be pretty poo right now, just think of the good things...er...there are good things I hope!

Well, the car, even though has some dents can be fixed and polished back to new. Girls, are well, they do that sometime, just promise yourself when things have quietened down to pop round and surprise her, she'll appreciate it...send her flowers to work, that always makes a statement to the rest of the guys there that she is off-limits.

As for the time away, I'm sure there will be another time plus this time you'll have more money (from the extra hours you have put in) so you'll be able to go on a bigger binge drinking session and get up to my shenanigans!

As for your brother, well...siblings...what more can you say...

Not sure if this helps, hope it does...everything will work out fine...hang in there matey!

Stay smiling Livino...

These things are sent to test us.

Girls: They do that... You just have to live with it.
Brother in Parents bed: He needs to learn some respect.
Dent on Car: Ouch. Not good. It'll get sorted though.
Work: Sorry mate, it's just one of those things we have to do
Brother's Girlfiend's Perfume: Yuck... Nothing worse than export-strength perfume.
Being stuck on your own over the holiday weekend: That sucks. At least you've got us!

I really hope your bro and his snotty piece get their come-uppance when your parents get back home! How can you get along when that sort of thing keeps happening.



I know its not much, but at least you have the summer to look forwards to, if its going to be nice and not a sweltering insect storm. We're rapidly heading towards an unpleasant winter that's likely going to be full of storms and not even any worthwhile snow (it'll be either nothing, about a centimetre, or a full 50cm-plus)
...maybe not what you want to hear but thats your alternative angle for being on a website supposedly limited to a country half the world away

Maybe you and your girl can book some time off together from respective jobs some time in the summer and work out maybe somewhere better and closer to live (free of crazy brothers etc), if different job/s can be found and it feels like the partnership can continue. Long distance relationships with no physical contact can be so hard to keep up so it's great that you're at least trying.

Cheers guys!

In the end, a couple of hours after I posted this thread one of my friends came back to the city and picked me up "to have a few beers". Turns out his ex was staying in the same house as he was, with her new guy, and I realized (after a few beers, strangely enough) he's not handling this thing as well as we all though he was.

Nothing like other people's problems to distract you from your own problems...

Anyway I think all that's bothering me at the moment is the Polo thing - I'm still not over that one. Maybe when the car gets repaired.

@Tahrey1043

Well I'm still considering whether to tell my mother about all that's happened here or not. I mean, it's natural that he'd take his girl to stay over ONE night or something like that, but the whole time... It's just not right. I don't know what to do. I don' want to point fingers or anything, but talking to him has obviously not worked.

Of course, it could all backlash against me but that's unlikely as my mom will most probably be shocked by the whole thing (a catholic country definitely has its advantages sometimes .

Not to mention we don't know the girl at all - I don't want to sound, well, prejudiced (or conservative or moralistic or anything like that, I really am not this kind of person), but... Doesn't she have a family that should be wondering where she is? She's much too young to be THAT independent - and if she lived alone, my brother would stay over at her place instead of bringing her here.

Oh well.

As for the Brazilian summer, it's usually great (despite almost daily torrential rain). There's one eternal issue though: as much as I love going to the beach (and I really do), I absolutely HATE crowded places - and 99% of the nice places, both cheap and expensive, will be overcrowded. It's a country of 175 million you know.

I simply hate the fact that Brazil's destroying its nicest beaches with tourism and real state speculation - and I don't mean the foreign tourists, who are usually clueless about the best spots and tend to stay in the 50s postcard beaches (Rio, Buzios, etc.).

It's the Brazilians who swarm to places (pretty much like insects now that you've mentioned it) with little or no infrastructure and bring with them the plague of beggars, thieves and salesmen who bother you every two or three minutes (and I'm NOT exagerating here) to try and sell rancid foot, useless crap or "henna tatoos" (don't know how to translate this one, it's those temporary tatoos that are supposed to last your package tour stay ). Not to mention the 1-litre Corsas and Palios with huge sound systems, which will be turned on at full volume, in a competition to see who's playing bad music the loudest. You can't have peace - and beach for me should be about peace above all else, and not a temple of chavdom (hehe now I fully understand the concept!)

So, I'm the sort of guy who avoids the beach during the high season, or who gets a map and tries to find some place that's calm and undeveloped, or who saves some money and tries to go somewhere a little more expensive - though this last strategy didn't work in the past two years so I'm either going back to the map thing (risking the Polo on some bad roads) or I might just go to the mountains and enjoy a cooler climate.

Which is precisely the opposite of what my gf (and most other women) like to do. They like the 'buzz' of a crowded beach I think. Can't really blame them: Brazilian women spend the whole year working out at the gym just to enjoy this moment. It's like the football finals for them, and I guess they need the crowds after all. I don't know if you guys understand the concept (because I don't, and I've tried since I started worrying about women).

Well, summer's still fun (I usually manage to get things done my way despite the protests ) and of course we all look forward to it. But in my time out I just like to escape from people. Good thing I have the Polo then!

Your winter sounds bad... But I have to confess I kinda like cold climates. You see, I live in country where it only snows in a very small area in the south of country, maybe once or twice every year - turning the towns where it snows into major tourist spots. The only times I've seen snow, I was either in Argentina, Chile or Australia, enjoying my holidays. So cold winters are associated with happy times in my mind.

Which is completely different of actually living in a cold country for the whole duration of the winter, so I think I see your point.

@Josh

Thanks mate.

I'm still sad about the Polo but things will certainly improve once I leave it in the garage to be repaired.

cyhliu

Thanks! I'm actually feeling better now that the work's done and I had the chance to go outside and give my brother some privacy.

your english is amazing for a foreign person

[quote="Babe RuthLess"]

Well I'm still considering whether to tell my mother about all that's happened here or not. I mean, it's natural that he'd take his girl to stay over ONE night or something like that, but the whole time... It's just not right. I don't know what to do. I don' want to point fingers or anything, but talking to him has obviously not worked. [quote]

Don't worry about it your mother will know whats gone on when she smells the perfume!Mothers are clever like that

Yeah, mother's do have this sixth sense about when you are up to no good! ha ha ha! Just enjoy the show when she does find out...popcorn at the ready!

They must take the girls away during that sex education lesson at school and give them lessons in 'mothering' and also how to remember arguments from four years ago so that it can be brought up time and time again whenever you have any arguments about current issues...man, wish they would teach them to read a map instead! ha ha ha! Women, can't live without them and certainly can't live with them!

@polo69

Thanks for the compliment, mate! In fact I think discussion forums like this one can be a big help when it comes to foreign languages. So... blame it on UK-POLOS.net!

@ste mk1lx

So far there's been no comment on this. I don't know... Anyway now that she's gone I'm over this whole thing. I just hope it doesn't happen again.

Anyway I'm not going to mention the subject again to either my bro or my parents. We're all adults here and my brother should have known better, but since he didn't I'll probably tell him to stop right from the beginning if he does that again - the next time our folks go away on vacation or something.

@cyhliu

Yeah women are like that.

We also tend to treat them a bit like we treat our mothers after a while - men sort of expect their partners to replace mom, in a sense. They're both essential and a bit of a nuisance sometimes. Just like our mothers in fact.

Plus they have to live with the fact that, in our minds, they'll never cook as well as our mothers - even when our mothers can't cook (mine certainly doesn't, though when she tries it usually works). Hehehehehe

Seriously though, my relationships are always messy but I can't live without them. The whole thing depends on a fine balance between taking the blame for some of the bad things that happen (10%) and finding subtle ways of convincing the other party that they're somehow to blame (90%) for mistakes that are made by both, in fact.

Of course, if both follow that logic (as in most relationships, between men and women at least) what you end up with is a nice 50-50 distribution that keeps things going well.